Good Things Do Happen in Love – Story Continues (Part II)

Recap: Mayur and Sara fell in love with each other during training at Infosys Mysore. They had a close group of friends though their friends were not able to find what is cooking unless it was officially declared by them. Their love story seemed to be like one in movies and it seemed that everything was falling in right place and at right time for both of them. The earlier part was concluded on the point that both of them got posting in Pune.
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So here goes the part 2 of the love story. Though there is approx 1 month gap in these two parts but I was trying to get more feedback for my first part so that this part can even be better. Hope it meets the expectations of readers. As usual, feel free to comment!!
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Mayur was part of training in PLES and Sara was in IMS. When the locations were disclosed, their group started packing, except Rohit and Bhaskar (as they were given posting in Mysore) . But just after a day it was told to Mayur (and many other in PLES) that they would be having extended training on a few more topics related to their domain in Mysore itself for a month. This meant that they both would not be able to see each other for next one month. The same feeling of not seeing each other was also there in the group for each other as 3 of them were staying in Mysore and 5 of them leaving Mysore.

When the day of departure arrived, all were too sentimental. It is amazed to see engineers to be irrational and emotional as they are always told to find reason in how instruments work or scientific theory can be applied but here are a few young brains feeling quite sad. The famous quotation by Blaise Pascal – “The heart has its reasons which reason knows nothing” was aptly suiting the situation. The feeling of going away was more intense for Mayur and Sara, as they were in love – love which Mayur realized quite early but it was new found love for Sara. As it is always the case with new found love, Sara was more anxious than Mayur of their temporary distances. Mayur gave all type of assurances to Sara to make her comfortable but they were not working as Mayur himself was sad and not in position to explain logical reasons/ details to an emotional girl. For their group it was quite amazing to see Sara so emotional as she was usually considered as sensible and mature girl who defied set norms of traditional society, where she comes from, to create her own distinct identity.

The complete group went to Banglore to see off those who were going to Pune. This was last minute attempts by each one of them to spend more time with each other. But who could have stopped TIME and the driver who was driving Volvo bus from B’lore to Mysore. Sara along with 4 other friends left for Pune and there were 3 friends looking at each other. Though they did not spoke any word for quite some time but their silence was speaking of loneliness of someone very special to them. When back to Mysore, there were quite a few sentimental talks among Mayur, Bhaskar and Rohit but one comment is worth mentioning. Mayur told that it would be very difficult for him to pass through the same passages and places in campus without lovely company of Sara and he decided to take not so regular routes within campus for a few days. Most of things in Mysore campus used to remind him of Sara which he did not mentioned but his cautious approach was more than indication that he is missing Sara. The same was not the case with Sara in Pune as it was new place for her but for sure she missed company of someone so close to her – close to her heart. It seemed that the sweet story of Mayur and Sara took an intermission. Though it was just 30 days but each day seemed to be like 30 days to both of them.

But as nothing in this world is infinite, their continuous emotions were reduced by corporate culture of Infosys. Mayur was busy in his training while Sara in her project. They used to talk only after extended office hours but weekends would bring quite a relief to them. Their relief was equivalent to relief of farmers in arid and dry area upon receiving first shower of monsoons. They used to share about their schedule, day-today activities and many smaller things which are difficult to even imagine without falling in love. Their telephonic talk used to continue as long as they would. Neither of them cared about benefits cellular companies are making because of thousands such love birds but each word of other person was like music to the listener’s ears.

The long period of wait of 30 days actually ended after 30 days. Mayur left for Pune or to the place where Sara was there. Now there were 6 of the group members in Pune and remaining 2 in Mysore. When back to Pune, Mayur and Sara tried to spend as much time as they can with each other. It seemed that they are compensating for the lonely times they had spent. The company of Mayur was more than delight for Sara, for whom only world was Mayur and Sara consider that period with Mayur as one of the best experiences of her life.

Then one fine day, they decided to make their family know of their relationship status. Fortunately, there was Holi (in the month of March) in which both of them went to their homes. Though Sara’s family was quite traditional they did not objected much to their relationship and her father considered Sara’s happiness to be the priority above everything. 50% of their relationship was accepted after Sara’s parents approval and now rest depended on Mayur’s parents approval. This gave Mayur more confidence to speak to his parents. But luck stopped favoring him and his parents clearly rejected his choice as Sara was from other caste. Further, Mayur was brahamin and his grandfather clearly told him that he should marry from the same caste. Mayur seemed to have lost his world. He tried convincing his parents but there answer was simple and straight – NO, NO and NO. After quite a few trials, Mayur lost the hope of convincing his parents and accepted their verdict as final.

Mayur had to convey his parents decision to Sara but he was not brave enough to communicate directly to Sara. Here again comes technology into picture. Last time, it was movie in which he communicated his feelings to Sara and this time he SMS (text message) Sara about what all happened at his home. That SMS ended the world for Sara. She was heart broken. She was wondering is their relationship so weak so that Mayur could not even call her up or the trust in their relationship was missing, which is becoming evident now. What an irony it is – when everything goes well, no one asks a question but when there is a major failure, there are several questions.

Sara tried talking to Mayur but their relationship was in different world by now. Mayur was not interesting in talking for long with Sara. Earlier they could have spend hours on call talking to each other but every time Sara called Mayur even a minute seemed like an hour to Sara. Probably Mayur wanted Sara to hate her and behaving this way will make it easy for Sara to hate her or just did not have answer to Sara’s quite a few questions and they were – what next? Should she wait for him to talk again at home? How long can that wait can be? What Sara should tell at her home? Are there any possibility of getting each other back? Why is Mayur not talking to her properly? Was Mayur actually serious with Sara or was it just matter of time? Was Mayur looking at Sara after his first break-up or was his desires straight from the heart? What exactly happened at his home? These are just a few questions. Sara had a lot of questions in her mind. But there were questions which she would have asked only to herself – WHY ME? What was my fault? Was loving someone can be such troublesome?

It was becoming very difficult for Sara to get back to her daily routine. Whenever she would see Mayur she had many insane thoughts coming in her mind. She was even unable to share her feeling with other friends in the groups. Even when they would try to touch on this topic, she would have tears in her eyes. But on the other side, Mayur tried to get himself completely involve in the work and put more hours in project just to keep himself busy. He was looking for some solace at workplace which he was able to get but there was no solace for Sara at workplace. Howsoever hard she would have tried not to think of Mayur, her all attempts went into veins. More she tried to forget Mayur, more Mayur was there in her mind. She sometimes had tears in her eyes, in alone, or while looking at pics of their groups earlier trips. She was not sure what happened to her. Was loosing anyone can be such a pitiful situation – she was never aware of this or even thought of this. But there was one thing for sure – Sara doubted that even Mayur talked with his parents properly or was it just a casual talk and he accepted whatever parents said.

Sara tried her best to get to normalcy as fast as possible but healing a girl’s heart from first unselfish love is quite complex. She tried explaining herself with a lot of reasons. She was more angry on herself than at Mayur that she did not see this situation before and allowed herself to fall in love madly with Mayur. But as time is the best healer, Sara came to normalcy in sometime!! She convinced herself that there is no use abusing Mayur or her own fate – whatever was supposed to happen has happened and she emerged as more mature than before. While by that time – Mayur fall in love with another girl, from the same training batch and this time from the same caste. Again what an irony, really big corporate provide wonderful opportunities – opportunities even for finding your love more than once!!

Well, by now all of you would have wondered that there is more of sad side of this story rather than happy side but that’s not true. Good things include – Sara was more mature girl than before, she found that Mayur is not a perfect match for her, Mayur came to know what his parents were looking for and their close group of friends realized what all can happen in so called ‘true love’. After all, good things do happen in love.

Further, the story of Mayur and Sara is still is not complete. Though both of them were on different paths but this time their path was worth having all good sides. After all, good things do happen in love.

Good Things Do Happen in Love

After reading a few stories, I felt of penning down a few real stories.These stories would be woven around emotional weakness of human nature like love, friendship, etc and changing relationships set in the backdrop of corporate environment. So here goes the first story. (Though a bit long, read it completely to enjoy it)

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Mayur entered into the Infosys campus with high hopes of making a great professional career in IT industry, the same dream shared by thousand others while entering one of the best IT training campuses in the world. He was accompanied by his friend Piyush, and both were from the same city. Just after entering the campus Mayur eyes were wide opened to see the huge but well designed campus. The golf cart, lush green cricket field, tennis courts, floating restaurant were instant attention grabbers while on the way to the hostel room which anyway were nothing less than a mini heaven (and more so for a young guy coming from middle class family).

It took him a few days to roam in the campus and get a feel of the campus. He particularly liked gym and swimming pool which goes well with his athletic body. In the meantime, formal training sessions started but they were not compelling enough to make a young, tall, fair looking guy to enjoy the facilities and beauty of training campus. Anyway, this campus provides fertile ground for young souls to fulfill most of their legal ambitions as it is the best extension of college for studies where one is actually paid to study. The days went by, his friend group increased but none of them anyway near to ’special’ friend he was looking for. His urge for finding that ’special’ friend grew stronger after seeing many noble souls (including some his friends) were able to roam around with someone who makes surrounding looks more beautiful.

It was about two months already in a four month training and his story was like ’so far, so good’. He was able to make three very good friends and many other friends to enjoy outings and drinks with. One day after daily training sessions, there were many students (or better word can be corporate professional) discussing which of the two training centers are better (In Infy Mysore, there are two training center – ILI and GEC). Like any other discussion among educated people, there were a few of friends on one side and a few on other. As the debate grew stronger and longer, a few studious type left the discussion and now the debating groups were more suitable to discuss as remaining people were quite strong about their views. In these groups on one side, there was Mayur and on the other side there was Sara, a simple, straight looking girl. Though debate formally ended after marathon discussion of three hours but it continued in small breaks between Sara and Mayur. This was their first encounter, and within 2-3 days their discussion topics completely changed from GEC/ILI to something personal to their lives. These conversations were further aided by extension given in each rooms and a free common phone in each lab. Mayur started calling Sara first from lab phone (b/w 5-8) and then from his room extension. Slowly, Sara formally joined in Mayur’s friends groups and this assimilation was aided by the fact that one of Sara’s friend was from same college that of Piyush’s college. Then this group of 6 can be seen together on various timings like dinner or movie or late night walk in campus or b’day celebrations, etc.

Within next 15 days, there were quite a few long conversations and innumerous small conversations between them. Mayur made sure that other friends in his group are not aware of his conversations with Sara as he was afraid that like any good friends, his friends will tease both of them about what’s cooking in and probably everything would be spoiled even before anything is in place. It seems that feeling of getting someone ’special’ make someone to take steps which are not indicative of other long relationships and in this case Mayur’s friendship with his good friends in the small group. Mayur was getting attracted towards Sara not because she was attractive or beautiful but because Mayur looked in Sara, family values, traditional culture which he thought are must for anyone to have to fit in his joint family. But what an irony is this – a young guy, aspiring for a great career in one of the technology advanced company looking for partner with typical Indian values or this might just be story everywhere – there are different things to appreciate and different things to nurture or possess. Anyway, continuing with their story, it continued. It just continued. Mayur was waiting for right moment to let Sara know of his feelings. Sara on the other hand thought Mayur as well caring and simple guy. She was more than happy to have him as a friend and just as a friend.

As the time went by, there were many other group outings like visit to Shivsamundra, Chamundi Hills, Srirangaptna, but all were just a day program. Then in the extended holidays of 26th January 2006, Mayur’s group or by now Mayur’s and Sara’s group planned for Ooty trip. It was a two day trip so much preparation was needed for this. During the trip, while going to Ooty and coming back Mayur somehow got the seat next to Sara without even giving hints to his friends of potential love story but this trip gave them sufficient enough opportunities to interact with each other and understand in a better way. Then after a few days, Sara had to go for her sister’s marriage by taking a flight from Bangalore. Mayur went all the way till Bangalore to drop Sara to airport and once again without letting anyone else know. Pefect planning – probably his brains suits profession of detective more than IT engineer.

When Sara came back from sister’s marriage, there were more frequent interactions, of which intentsity were increasing at the lighting’s pace. Some of the contexts were eating marriage sweets, project discussion, etc. Then that day came – day when training was supposed to get over and everyone would be expected to depart for their place of posting. Their group decided to enjoy these last few days to the fullest extent – extent of just sleeping for 2/3 hours per day for last 7 days. During one of those last days, came the turning point. Mayur realizing that end of training period is coming to an end and if he does not proposes to Sara now it would be the lost case for him. But like a typical Indian lover, he was not sure of what would be going in Sara’s mind and was very very afraid and nervous to propose her. As there were not many options left for him – he had to propose her and he choose a careful way. 3 days before postings were declared, they all decide to go for a movie but a quick photoshoot before the movie was suggested by one of the group member. Mayur got the right moment. In one of the pic, he casually but firmly put hand on Sara’s shoulder. It was so causal that no one else was able to sense it but it was firm enough to give Sara indication about Mayur’s feeling. But Sara was quite surprised with this attitude of Mayur. She always thought of him as a good friend, in fact a very good friend. Mayur was tensed after Sara’s first reaction but he has to compensate for the lost chance.

They all reached to cinema hall to watch ‘Rang De Basanti’ and Mayur tried to take seat adjacent to Sara but it did not worked this time. Then came the best part of Mayur’s life – intermission in the movie. He made the best use of it, the use which no one (even director of RDB) would not of thought of. He swapped his seat in such a way that he was next to Sara was the intermission. As the movie started, they both were discussing very quietly, so quietly that only their eyes and emotions were speaking in that darken hall. After some time, Mayur put his palm on Sara’s palm. She did not objected. THAT WAS IT. Sara accepted Mayur’s proposal and when everything was settle that night they announced it formally to the group about their relationship status. The group members were happily surprised, at least some reason to be happy in last few days. Fortunately, Mayur and Sara got the same posting, i.e. Pune so it was all going too well for them.

It just seemed that there was one of the lucky stories with all the stars favoring them. Both were happy with their choice of partners as it matched their perception of what he/she should be. They spent enough time with each other to understand them better and found that their compatibility was quite high. Their pair was a perfect one – Sara complemented Mayur for what he lacked and Mayur complemented Sara for what she lacked. When they were together even their silence was enough to write the thousand stories and all with same happy ending.

But was that all? Do good things happen in Love?
Yes/No/May be, but his part was just the beginning of the end which none of us would have thought of. Here come into play other external factors like corporate environment, family restrictions and more importantly irrational human expectation and feelings which are difficult to handle – difficult to handle for strong characters like Sara and Mayur who have craved their own growth stories from a typical medium class family to one of the best places.
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So what is the remaining story….will continue in the next post….probably after a week when my exams are over and till that time, it would by new year . Till that time, any comment, criticisms or feedback, feel free to post.

Shayris and Similarities in My Life – मेरी जिंदगी के बहुत करीब कुछ शायरियां

This blog is different from all my earlier blogs as this is a collection of a few good shayris (none of them written by me). But posting them as all have some similarities in life.

So here are 5 best ones. They are closely related to my life and conveys my feelings in short and sweet way

1st one – I always wait for the right moment to convey my feelings by waiting for other person to give some hint of their liking…..so this one is for such a feeling. Always true…

रास्ते बन भी सकते थे,
दूरियां मिट भी सकती थी|
तुमने इशारा भर किया होता,
और तकदीर बदल भी सकती थी||

2nd one – Well when the wait ends and no hint…..life moves on and this one is for that

आस होगी न आसरा होगा,
आने वाले दिनों में क्या होगा|
में तुझे भूल जाऊँगा एक दिन,
वक्त सब कुछ बदल चूका होगा||

3rd one – A few days/weeks/months after life has started to be back on track. Though these are not the 100% correct lines as the other person never knew of my feelings but it still suit the context

उनकी मोहब्बत का निशान अभी बाकी है,
नाम लब पर है जान अभी बाकी है|
क्या हुआ जो देख कर वो मूह फेर लेते है,
तसल्ली तो है चेहरे की पहचान अभी बाकी है||

4th one – At some point or other, someone special makes an entry in your life….in some form or other and behaves as it nothing had happened. In any case, this one suits here as I tend to overdo things to make others feel comfortable

मुझे ठुकरा कर उसने कहा मुस्कुराने को,
और हम हंस दिए, क्यूँकी सवाल उसकी ख़ुशी का था|
मैंने खोया वो जो मेरा था ही नहीं,
और उसने खोया वो जो सिर्फ उसी का था||

5th one – And in case you ask who this person is/was, then answer is in below sharyi

बस यही एक झिझक है हाल ऐ दिल सुनाने में,
के उनका ज़िक्र भी आएगा इस फ़साने में|

This collection was an attempt to summarize my current/past experiences….any comment….feel free to post them!!

Appreciating Small Things in Life

A blog after a long time….either i m creative after a long time or i m in ‘high’ spirits after a long-long time (or 4 months!!)

Well….to set the expectation clear – this blog is for those who knows about my recent past or knows really quite well about me or would like to know more about me!!

As the topic suggests, I strongly believes in appreciating small things in life. As one of the quotation by Swami Vivekananda goes, the way of appreciating life is simplicity. He states – Truth itself is quite simple. Complexity is due to man’s ignorance. The essense is if we all try to be honest and simple…..we can appreciate small things and I try to follow it as best as I can.

At times, these are the small things that matters a lot in life. It might be making someone happy irrespective of spending your time in busy schedule or taking care of someone even if you are not well (and then also hearing not so good things!!). Though, I can go on making the points (till the next day morning!!) on how to appreciate small things but have to restrict myself to a few words. So, here goes my prescription on how to appreciate small things:

1. Make a list of things, that are supposed to be done for the next day. In case, one is not able to take an hour or so for the things he/she like to do then there is no use of being busy or ‘privileged’.

2. Appreciate someone on the spot….do not wait for some auspicious moment to arrive and then express word of gratitude

3. Remember to spend time with your near and dear ones
In case you are really busy but you can still appreciate small things by sending a SMS or by saying just one or two good lines!!

4. Try to make as many people comfortable by your presence as you can.

5. Do care and do not abuse the person those who were not good to you.

6. Be selfish and do not waste your anger on someone else. This is important because in the process of saying not so good words, we can miss out on small things in life by wasting our energy on unnecessary things.

7. Do not hate or worry about someone as that stops creative things. And remember, it is creativity that helps in appreciating small things in life.

8. Today we have time to spend but not the money and tomorrow we might have money to spend but not the time to spend. But FINALLY, one day we would be having time as well as money to spend on someone special but by then we do not have someone special to spend time or money with. So to be on right track of life…..irrespective of the case….do appreciate small things so that neither people nor money matters too much and still we appreciate small things in life!!

9. Also being appreciative makes you feel positive and energetic without egoism (or jealousy!!), which is very important and I am still learning about it.

10. Apart from this, do not allow your responsibilities to overburden your personal life. This is what I am facing from a few months. Though at times, I feel that I am in love with someone but my schedule does not even allow me to think comfortably on this personal thing and on how to set the ground and convey my feelings but anyway, that is part and parcel of life!!

Let me now stop here, otherwise i could have gone on and on after being in high spirits.

Feel free to post comment!!

Her Absence was the Speaking Reality

This post is just another attempt to express my feelings in my own emotional way. In this post I have written my feelings – feeling of loneliness when she left me all alone. Though this incident is more than 3 years back but everything worth remembering is in my memory. Its not that I have a sharp memory (or not even brains!!) but as the incident was very close to my heart, I am able to recall it. This is just an attempt to make my readers feel about such moments and help them in realizing that there would be many incidents in life that would seem to be insignificant at one time but at other times the same incident can be life changing one!! So my suggestion (after repeating a lot of mistakes on the same thing!!) would be to just go with the current flow and enjoy every moment. Anyway, I would not elaborate further on importance of writing this blog and would take you to my story – a true story.

The story goes like this – we were a group of friends in a corporate, to be exact corporate training. The best thing about it was that we were paid to study, so it was extended college life with own pocket money (of which % increase was nearly infinite!!). Anyway, during the training period we were a group of friends (8 of us) who used to enjoy a lot but as in every friendship there were sometimes arguments or differences and there she comes in picture….she always used to make me understand what i should not have done. Like anyone else, I was annoyed at anyone teaching me….but she had some different style of making me understand….simple ways but making sure that i am not crossing my limits. She always used to take care of me though we had our share of arguments. Though she was just one of good friends among 8 of us but for sure she had something special in her…she was simple yet elegant, ordinary looks with extraordinary smile, conservative in nature but with a open heart, did not used to say anything with words but her eyes used to tell complete story. I could go on writing about her (or for that sake for anything close to my heart!!) but I did not realized these feelings until her absence made me feel that something in my life is missing.
As every good thing comes to an end, my regular interaction with friends (and also with her) was coming to an end. Training was coming to its end and we were posted at different locations….she (along with 3 other friends) was transferred to Pune and i remained at the training place!! The day we friends were supposed to depart we had a great time….time that none of us are going to forget….time that was really precious to me…I conveyed my feelings for her but for her I was ‘just’ a friend…infact ‘just’ a good friend. Anyway, I got opportunity to spend some time with her….only with her and i talked with her of everything. But as said, I was ‘just’ a good friend….the story continued….at that point I told to myself this is not the first time I am away from someone I feel special for…I accepted that as reality and as usual decided to move on. Instead of listening to my heart…I was listening to my mind (which is always supposed to be rational)
But then, instead of story ‘just’ over it was new beginning. Though I was in same campus and city where my training was there but then I was missing something…missing care of someone special…missing fights with someone who never minded…missing talks of someone which I always used to call stupid…missing small arguments over dinner table…missing short walks with someone whom i could have shared everything….the missing list continued and in ‘just’ one day i realized – i was missing myself.
But then…it was probably all too late. She was in some other city…though technology has progressed a lot but it will never be able to bridge the distance with someone you miss, she was with some other friends, with her own work, with her other commitments and here I was wondering what I lost and what I am missing. I could not have shared my feeling with anyone as my only ’special’ person was not there….I was ‘just’ physically present. But then it was reality….her absence was speaking reality which made me realized that how much I loved her.

But as said it was too late…and it was actually late….she falled in love with one other friend of ours in the same group and they are now happily married!! Still I am happy…happy because she is happy, happy because I conveyed my feelings (though she did not agreed to them), happy because we are still good friends and happy because I realized how much I loved her. But do I still love her – probably not because she had broken a lot of my expectations (which are always high!!) though I respect her a lot – respect her for teaching me something called trust, fun, friendship, love, made sure that i quit smoking permanently and lot many things in life – she was a true inspiration for me in many things!!
Still one question might remain – what I did when I realized I love her too much and she is not there – like every weak person – I had tears in my eyes that night (which is rare off incident….probably once in years) and there were tears all over my pillow (with which I covered my eyes). Not only this…that night it rained.

Well this is end to the blog…not sure how many would really read it till end but this blog is one with from bottom of my heart for someone special (written to keep one of the promises with her!!)

A few Ironies of Life!!

There were a few moments in life which I expected something different but it happened completely different. So, this blog is one more attempt to share learning’s from those incidents and offcourse, to laugh at myself!!
Also knowing that not all readers would be interested in knowing ironies of my life, I have taken a few incidents or references from other sources but for sure they have similarity in my life. So here it goes (as usual feel free to comment!!)

1) Excerpt from “Like the Flowing River” by Paulo Coehlo (Pg – 185) – “We are in such a hurry to grow up and then we long for our lost childhood. We make ourselves ill earning money, and then spend all our money on getting well again. We think so much about the future that we neglect the present and thus experience neither the present nor the furture.” Well, this has been my irony for long….untill I realized that such an irony existed. Initially I have set high standards (be it studies, workplace or personal life!!) for myself unaware of my own constraints. I overstretched myself to meet those standards and in the due process missed on enjoying the life. Anyway, I have no complaints of missing the ‘present’ in the past as it was a different experience.

2) A person is judged by his/ her past and not by the potential he/ she holds for the future. This has essentially created a lot of problems for me as time and again for the activities that I have taken, have to put ‘extra’ efforts to prove that I have ’sufficient’ potential. At times this work and at times, it hurts!!

3) The best of the learning’s are from worst of the incidents or to say I have learned a lot many right things through hard ways. Though, sudden reactions had extreme responses and my responses were really ‘extreme’ but when the reality settled I thanked my life for teaching me new lessons.

4) परसु, पर्सा, परसराम, – माया के हैं तीन नाम – This phrase means that a person when did not had wealth or fame or ‘माया’ people used to call him परसु but as he acquired wealth/ fame, he got more respect and thus a better name पर्सा and then with more wealth/ fame comes परसराम. The correlation here is that, at times I am recognized not as an individual (or friend with all good and bad habits!!) but mostly because of the things I have done and progressed over the years in my life or in any given task. I hate this thing as the day would also be there when I would not be having any name/ fame and then none of those ‘appreciators’ would be there but again, have to live with the reality.

5) No matter how selfless your act is, at times you will be undoubtedly doubted for vested interests. This used to irritate me earlier when I used to wonder on those doubts (though my acts had never been ‘completely’ selfless!!) but now its fun or enjoyment to let others dig and debate on my ‘vested interest’ and myself focusing on task.

6) I have often made mistakes of evaluating person at very stage of relationship but realities are typically different. True character of anyone is known in ‘testing’ or ‘extreme’ situations and it is at times different from earlier perceived image – a great learning but with some heartbreaks and a few heartburns!!

7) My restriction from commenting on a few things is usually not appreciated, i.e. patience is taken as a weakness and not as a virtue. While my attempt by not commenting is not to hurt the relations but this gives opportunity to others make a lot many points. Again, not happy with these attitude of my ‘near and dear ones’ but blessing in disguise – this has become a tool to test my self control.

8 The person whom I loved the most, unfortunately I hated her most. Simple reason – when I was in love, expectation got high and high but other person not able to perform as per those. Result – free fall in my love to the other extreme level!! Anyway, in the complete ‘process’ I always respected other person a lot from heart – for teaching me lifelong haunting lesson!!

I guess these ironies are pretty detailed for any stranger on this blog, so feel free to read other posts or about me!!

Thanks for reading it. Any co-relation to living person is purely true and real!!

Finding Bigger Purpose of Life

I have been looking answer for one question in life from long time, probably more than 10 years now. Did my undergraduation, left job in pursuit to find the answer but still have no answer. You would have guessed the question and it is – ‘What is my bigger purpose of my life’. Though I am not able to find one for me but got some experience and pointers and I am hopeful to find my answer very soon. Well in the search for the answer, I came across a few points which can help anyone in finding purpose of life (given that they are looking for the answer!!)
Before I continue, one disclaimer – This blog is based on my experience and it might turn that a few or all points are irrelevant to a few or all. In this case a gentle request – please let me know any other points which can be helpful to find bigger purpose of my life.

Coming back to the topic, below are my pointers:

1) Always listen to your heart – Apart from finding answer to most complex problem of life, it helps in keeping young. Also, one would never have any regret, even 20 years down the life, of making a wrong decision at any point of time. Further this is highly useful when there is a conflict between mind and heart. Mind is always rational, thinks of material comfort and is always selfish but heart is pure, irrational but honest (this is the reason we like a smile on 3 year kid face – its selfless). In fact as rightly said by Blaise Pascal – “the heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing”.

2) Follow the omens – This is taken from Paulo Coehlo ‘The Alchemist’. I really believe in this. But the only question remains is how to find an omen and the answer is just see around yourself, see in everything you are doing is there anything related to something you like or you are struck with. In such a case even a small pointer becomes omen….and remember about beginners luck as told by Coehlo.

3) Believe in your dreams - Whether the dreams are when you are sleeping or awake – just believe in them. Nothing is impossible and half the work is done when you know what needs to be done. Even if dreams are unrealistic just believe in yourself and Almighty (in whatsoever form!!)

4) Explore the hobby you love doing most - There is some hidden message in anything you like. It can be as vague as playing music or lending a helping hand to anyone. If you don’t have any hobby which you love – try other hobbies. Range of hobbies can vary from singing, sketching, writing poetries, doing social work, reading novels,…literally anything!! But try each hobby with your best attempt and even if you do not find best hobby…you have learned multiple skills to spend your free time in ’something different’.

5) Don’t hold to anything - Well this is the mistake I have done many times. Something which has happened in past is past but we are not willing to accept it. We carry old memories and sometimes get lost in them. Letting go off is very important and it also allows us to feel the beauty of new things coming our way. But remember one thing – don’t bury the past in hatred…it was your relation, your time everything was your so don’t blame other person or circumstances for anything that has happened to you. Accept the reality and never have any negative views as it stops the positive aura or things you should be open to!!

6) Believe in forgiveness - This is continuity of the above point. If you can forgive and forget…that’s all. In this case no hatred, no negative comments, no burden and whatsmore you are not cursing anyone when they are not there!!

7) Talk to near and dear ones – They are those who knows your strengths and weakness, can really give constructive feedback but only thing you need to do is to talk with them – communicate honestly in trustworthy enviornment. Don’t be rigid and willing to follow suggestions otherwise no one will worry about you next time and in case you do not like any suggestion even after trying one – try another!! Keep trying and keep changing.

(8) It’s now or never - Anything you are supposed to do….definitely do it – don’t delay it for any reason. Be it a small thing like saying a sorry to your friend or telling your true feelings to someone special. Because at times we might regret of not doing something because we keep on delaying it and then one day there was no reason for doing it or it was too late to do that thing.

9) Always belief that there is a bigger reason for your existence – This is one of the most important thing. Keep in mind that you are not there ‘just’ to be a good son, student, employee, friend, relative,…..but something beyond that. Just imagine that there are 6 billion people on this planet and if everyone ‘just’ wants to be satisfied with what they have, what presently they are doing and focusing their responsibilities on a few one – there cannot be any great social change!! There needs to be someone who can think above the social clutters and this can be anyone – even YOU

So that’s all from my side…in case of any comment, do share it.

The Great Indian Show : Union Election

The great Indian show, i.e. Union Election, is back after five years. The show will be conducted in five phases and the result would be declared in the fifth month of the year. So much of fives coming in….well are there any other interesting observations? Yes, there are a few and I am going to list them down.

Let’s start with what is in common with earlier electons:
i) Like the last election, the ruling party is finding favors in the pre-poll surveys. Further, last year BJP focused on ‘India Shining’ and this year Congress (I) is focusing on ‘Bharat Nirman’ and all these things on the expense of tax payers money.
ii) As in the past few elections, regional parties are going to play a major role. It is so much so that Mayawati is dreaming of becoming PM.
iii) Left partied and Congress (I) are fighting elections against each other, as they did in last election or in WB or in Kerala. This is one of the best hidden agendas of both parties, as they first curse or abuse each other but after elections they join hands to keep so called communal parties out of power.
iv) Congress has not fielded anyone as PM candidate and is heavily dependent on the Gandhi family. BJP though is in better state but is suffering from infighting and strained relationships with Sangh pariwar.

Now coming to interesting observations on what different is in this election.
i) Current tussle with respect to IPL is more on the political reasons rather than on the security reasons. If IPL goes on as schedule, UPA seems to be losing more than NDA (See Swaminomics, 8th March Sunday Times of India). Hence ,the complete fiasco to reschedule IPL.
ii) The most elited and qualified financial trio (of Manmohan Singh, PC and Montek Singh Ahuluwalia) completely failed in their area of expertise. First, they failed to see the great recession hitting India and when they realized there was no corrective action. To make the matter worse, the policy decision would increase the fiscal deficit to 12%, the highest ever after 15 years. This clearly indicates that there is someone behind the scene, without any competence, controlling the show (no prize for guessing the name of Sonia Gandhi!!). Shouldn’t the ruling party be penalized for playing with strong economy and still saying ‘Bharat Nirman’
iii) BJP has got Narendera Modi, the so called Hindu mascot of growth, as one of the leading campaigner. He was virtually absent in the last election but his third consecutive victory in Gujarat and ‘super-man’ image by corporate India have changed his fortune. Though he would be campaigning in only a few states but I am sure that he is going to make a big difference, even it is on small scale with changed image and firebrand speech.
iv) This time youths and women are going to play a major role in deciding the next government (see Rajendra Gupta’s blog -> http://rajendragupta.wordpress.com/2009/03/06/youth-and-women-hold-the-key-to-electoral-success-in-2009-elections-rajendra-pratap-gupta/). In this case, Congress (I) has an advantage over BJP as they women at the high command with young children all having the name ‘Gandhi’ with them!!. BJP on the other hand is losing as they have old leaders and no prominent women campaigner.
v) The outcome of this election would depend on the performance of regional parties. But this time the scenario is different. This time it is expected that TDP, BSP, AIADMK, BJD, AGP and TC are going to gain while NC, DMK and SP are going to lose. Further, BJP is expected to gain in J&K, North-East and Karnataka while losing in Rajasthan, MP and Orissa. The only good point for BJP is that there performance in key state of UP would be steady (or can improve!!) as they have already hit the rock bottom with seats in single digit. But BJP is losing on the point that most of the prominent NDA partners (TDP, BJD, TC, AIADMK) have left NDA while number of partners in UPA have increased.

Well, after putting all these interesting points, let me come to something of what can be concluded from these points. Looking at the above ‘interesting’ factors I can guess that (though even a small change in guess here would mean a blunder!!) that NDA is going to fetch around 210 seats while UPA would be at 200 seats (even if its +-5% it can be good guess!!) and thus third front is going to play the bigger than ever role.
So, let us keep our finger crossed for this great Indian show. Like you all, I am anxiously waiting for the show to start and then results to come!!

एक नया एहसास – A new feeling

Friends,
I am not sure of expectations with which you would be reading this blog. But after reading a few shaayris of mine one would assume that its all sad to read but this time its a bit different. I tried penning down my new feelings – feelings which have some hope and expectation. So keep guessing and read these lines for someone!!

इन आदाओँ से न देखो मुझको, यह मेरा दिल हैं मचल जायेगा|
तुम्हारा क्या हैं तुम तो चले जाओगे, पर यह दिल- एः-नादाँ कहाँ जायेगा|
मैं तो साकी हूं, काफिर हूं, दरिया हूं कहीं भी चले जाऊँगा|
ऐतबार रखना मेरा की मैं तेरा नाम किसी को न बतऊंगा|

कभी मेरी दुनिया मैं आ के तो देखो, फिर जो हसीं मंजर होगा वो देखा जायेगा|
मैं वो ज़रा हूं की खुद भिखर जाऊँगा, फिर भी तेरे दामन को महका के जाऊँगा|
याद तो तुम्हे भी करेंगे महफिल मैं और भी लोग, पर एक मैं ही तुम्हे महसूस भी कर पाऊँगा|

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A few lines or shaayri on Valentines Day!!

Dear friends,
On this day i just thought of expressing my emotions for someone special – who was in my life at some point of time. As usual my true feelings are sad but i am sure there would be many to appreciate and understand my feelings!! So here goes my shaayri or a few lines on Valentines Day

यह दिन भी एक अजीब दिन हैं, मोहब्बत की दुनिया में यादगार दिन हैं||१||
यह दिन आपने किसी ख़ास के साथ गुजारा होगा, हमने यह दिन आपकी यादों के साथ गुजारा हैं||२||
यह दिन आपके जीवन को महका गया होगा, हमारे लिए यह दिन तनहा रहा हैं||३||
इस दिन को आप कैसे भी मनाए, हम आपकी यादों के साथ में यह दिन बितायेंगे||४||
इस दिन आपको न जाने क्या-क्या तोहफे मिले होंगे, पर हम आपको तन्हियो के सिवा कुछ न दे पाएंगे||५||
चाहे कोई हमारे जीवन में आ जाए, फिर भी हम आपको नही भूल पाएंगे||६||
आप हमसे दूर क्यों गई यह तोह हमे भी नही पता पर आपकी यादों को छोड़कर हम दुनिया से चले जायेंगे||७||

P.S. – In case you feel, that these are quite sad lines….do read a blog on funny incidents in my life. Usually my life is quite happy but whenever i write my shaaryis it just becomes sad!!